bibliography

Shell, Marc, ed. American Babel: Literatures of the United States from Abnaki to Zuni. Cambridge: Harvard UP, 2002. Print.


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Apgar, Kathryn, John Eaton and Donald P. Riley. Parent-child communication. New York: Family Service Association of America, 1977.
It will not be used in the presentation because it doesn’t provide information about the type of nonverbal communication that would be useful in our presentation. It talks about effective listening and problem solving skills. It addresses communication in the verbal and stuff you do inside your head communication areas. It provides good examples of making handouts and outlines for a presentation though.
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Barnhart, Sara A. Introduction to interpersonal communication. New York: Thomas Y. Crowell Company, 1976.
It will be used in the presentation because it has various tidbits of nonverbal interpersonal communication interspersed throughout the book that is not too hard to find because of the good index. It has a short chapter about nonverbal communication but most of the chapter is spent describing the terms associated with nonverbal interpersonal communication and with pictures that don’t enhance the ability of the reader to interpret nonverbal communication in real life. It has a good index.
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Bolstad, Richard and Margot Hamblett. Transforming Communication: Leading-edge professional and personal skills. New Zealand: Longman, 1997.
It will not be used in the presentation because it doesn’t provide information about the type of nonverbal communication that would be useful in our presentation. Formerly published as Communication Caring. Has one page about the nonverbal actions of listening that the increase the chances of a successful communication. Has one and a half pages with very general useful information about mirroring and rapport but I don’t think I could use it in our presentation because these skills are not very useful when disciplining someone or try to get someone to not do an action through having a discussion about it. He recommends another book Unlimited Power for more information about this subject. It has an index and further reading page. It has very good information about verbal ways to improve your communication skills with many types of people. They talk about how makes it harder to have positive communication but doesn’t discuss the nonverbal actions associated with this communication.
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Chinn, Philip C., Robert H. Walters, and Joyce Winn. Two-way talking with parents of special children: a process of positive communication. Missouri: C.V. Mosby Company, 1978.
This is going to be used in the presentation because it has four pages about nonverbal communication that can be used when communicating with anyone about serious topics that two different people may have very different views on. The principles in this book seem like they could be used in any kind of parent child relationship. One chapter is specifically dedicated to the family dynamics in families with special children. Three chapters practically explain when this type of communication is useful and how to use in many types of parent-child interactions. This type of communication includes many aspects of traditional communication including developing assertion as a skill.
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Dossey, Barbara Montgomery, Cathie E. Guzzetta and Lynn Keegan. ed. Holistic Nursing: A Handbook for Practice. 4th ed. London: Jones and Bartlett Publishers, 2005.
Each chapter is based on a technique or practice and includes a section on Nurse Healer Objectives, Definitions, Conclusion, Directions for Future Research and Nurse Healer Reflections. Each chapter also includes short writings about other aspects of the technique or practice. At least two chapters of this book relate to nonverbal family communication. Chapter 24 provides an overview of current touch therapies and a few touch therapies that are being researched for the future. This would have been useful in the presentation if we were going to talk about physical ways of comforting family members. Chapter 31 provides an overview of how to use aromatherapy in the most beneficial way (including common mistakes people make and two case studies). It includes a page description about how to achieve effective communication and how active listening is a part of the effective communication that nurses practice. The aromatherapy will be used in the first part of the presentation after the introduction and statistics when we are talking about how to make a situation more positive when talking about sex and drugs with your children.
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Epps, Susan and Barbara J. Jackson. Empowered Families, Successful Children: Early Intervention Programs That Work. Washington D.C., American Physchological Association, 2000.
It will be used in the presentation because it has one example of open body communication. Only has one half page about nonverbal communication. Identifies kinesics, paralinguistics and proxemics with brief definition as the parts of nonverbal communication that create empowered families.
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Feldstein, Stanley and Aron W. Siegman, ed. Nonverbal Behavior and Communication. 2nd ed. New Jersey: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Inc., 1986.
Not very practical because there is more space spent describing the theory and testing of the concept than describing how the concept can be applied in human interactions. If the aspect of how the concept can be applied in human interactions is explained at all, it is explained in a concise and vague manner. It has no diagrams, sketches or pictures but does have an author and subject index.
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Fitzpatrick, Mary Anne and Patricia Noller. Communication in family relationships. New Jersey: Prentice Hall, 1993.
It is going to be used in the presentation because it has practical information about how to nonverbally show that you are listening. It is a book that briefly describes the theory behind the communication that it discusses and provides good practical information about individual actions can contribute to negative and positive family dynamics and communication. The table of contents doesn’t show whether the chapter contains information about nonverbal communication but the book has a good subject index. It has a page about nonverbal channels of communication. It very briefly discusses how nonverbal actions can contribute to negative family dynamics and communication. It has a section about nonverbal communication of intimacy. It has a name index but doesn’t really have any pictures, diagrams or sketches.
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Glynn, Shirley M. and Kim T. Mueser. Behavioral Family Therapy for Psychiatric Disorders. London: Allyn and Bacon, 1995.
This will be used in the presentation because it provides good information and examples of good and bad nonverbal communication for creating any kind of positive family relationship. It has a good index and provides handouts and homework sheets that may be useful in deciding what to use as handout (s) in the presentation. Provides a detailed and very practical explanation of how communication creates function or dysfunction within any family. This source was found by Stephanie Mott. Pgs 183 &190 may be useful and I havn’t looked past there

Harrison, Randall P. Beyond Words: an Introduction to Nonverbal Communication. New Jersey: Prentice-Hall, Inc., 1974.
This isn’t going to be used in the presentation because although it has good information the information isn’t as useful as the other information in the other sources. It has practical information and sketches and diagrams. It has an index, a glossary of key terms and an annotated bibliography of further readings. The book is very well organized and has a description of the main topics covered in each chapter below the chapter name.
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Guerrero, Laura K. and Michael L. Hecht. Ed. Nonverbal communication reader: classic and contemporary readings. 3rd Ed. Illinois: Waveland Press, 2008.
This isn’t going to be used in the presentation because it doesn’t contain the type of nonverbal communication that would be used in the family interactions that we are going to be describing in our presentation. It doesn’t include practical ways to incorporate this information into the human experience. It is a collection of articles talking about different nonverbal codes in many types of human relationships. Some articles are too theoretical to be able to be useful for the presentation. It has no sketches, diagrams or pictures. It doesn’t have an index.
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James, Judi. People talk: the skills of positive communication and customer care. London: The Industrial Society, 1997.
This source is not going to be used in the presentation because it didn’t provide any new information. It had two pages about nonverbal communication that were helpful because it confirmed general concepts that the other sources had discussed. It had a practical chapter on how to relieve stress so that you can come into a serious discussion about things like sex or drugs in a positive frame of mind. However, this isn’t the type of nonverbal communication that we are going to be focusing on in our presentation.
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Katz, Albert M. and Virginia T. Katz. Foundations of Nonverbal Communication: Readings, Exercise and Commmentary. Edwardsville: Southern Illinois University Press, 1983.
It is not going to be used in the presentation because it describes the general concepts but it doesn’t describe the how these general concepts can be used in a practical manner in family relationships. It provides many exercises and discussion questions that seem to be designed to have the reader discover how the concepts described in the book produce nonverbal communication in their lives.
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Kratz, Abby Robinson and Dennis M. Kratz. Effective Listening Skills. London: Mirror Press, 1995.
This is not going to be useful for the presentation because it provides information about all of the verbal actions or actions that you can do to be an effective listener. Although it does mention some nonverbal techniques it doesn’t explain in a way that allows someone to explain the concepts to someone else or would make someone feel confident about using them in their social interactions.
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Lamb, Warren and Elizabeth Watson. Body Code: The Meaning in Movement. New Jersey: Princeton Book Company, 1979.
This is not going to be useful in the presentation because it explains in a theoretical way how gesture and posture has influenced communication throughout history. It contains a good bibliography and has many sketches and diagrams. It would be excellent resource if information was needed about the nonverbal role of posture and gesture throughout history.

Langs, Robert. Unconcious Communication in Everyday Life. London: Jason Aronson, Inc. 1983.
This is not going to be used because it is not practical and too theoretical. The chapters are organized in an abstract way. It contains a short index and reference list.
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Leathers, Dale G. Nonverbal Communication Systems. London: Allyn and Bacon, 1976.
This isn’t going to be used in the presentation because although it has good information the information isn’t as useful as the other information in the other sources. It has practical information, sketches and diagrams. It has an index and a bibliography. The book is very well organized and has a description of the main topics covered in each chapter below the chapter name.
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Long, Lynette. Listening/Responding: Human-Relations Training for Teachers. Monterey, CA: Brooks/Cole Publishing Company, 1978.
This is going to be used in the presentation because it has some information that validates the other sources and some useful information in the chapter named nonverbal methods of facilitating the communication process. It has some practical information and sketches. It has an index and a bibliography. The book is very well organized and has a description of the main topics covered in each chapter below the chapter name. It has 17 simulation activities to personally experience what the book explains. This source was found by Stephanie Mott.

Machotka, Pavel and John Spiegel. Messages of the Body. New York: The Free Press, 1974.
This source isn’t going to be used because it doesn’t have easily accessible information about nonverbal communication in families. It focuses on communication between adult men and women. Good index and bibliography but too theoretical to be able to be useful for the presentation. It has some diagrams, pictures or sketches but is not very practical.
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Manusov, Valerie and Miles L. Patterson. Ed. The SAGE handbook of nonverbal communication. London: Sage Publications, 2006.
It is not very useful for this project because it focuses on explaining the type of nonverbal criteria that studies have analyzed and how that criteria could be improved or how when the results of the research are analyzed further research could be done. They suggest specific ways that research could be further enhanced in that area of nonverbal communication. For example, in the article Nonverbal and Verbal Communication: Hand Gestures and Facial Displays as Part of Language Use in Face-to-Face Dialogue, there were only four descriptions of nonverbal communication communicating an emotion or creating an atmosphere change and these were not applicable to situations where parents are communicating with their children. Possibly ch 17 and 20 would be helpful
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McCardle, Ellen Steele. Nonverbal Communication. New York: Marcel Dekker Inc., 1974.
This isn’t going to be used in the presentation because it doesn’t contain the type of nonverbal communication that would be used in the family interactions that we are going to be describing in our presentation. It doesn’t include practical ways to incorporate this information into the human experience. It focuses on theoretical and biological aspects of communication. It also focuses on nonverbal communication of aggression. It contains a short author, reference and subject list. It doesn’t contain pictures, diagrams or sketches.
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Mehrabian, Albert. Nonverbal Communication. New York: Aldine, Atherton, Inc., 1972.
It has no sketches, diagrams or pictures. It doesn’t present the information in a very practical way. It has a good bibliography and index.
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Molcho, Samy. Body Speech. New York: St. Martin’s Press, 1985.
This is going to be used in the presentation. It has very practical information with many pictures. It doesn’t use technical communication which makes it enjoyable to read for someone who isn’t in the communication ?discipline? but enjoys learning about the communication ?discipline?.
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Nichols, Michael P. The Lost Art of Listening. London: The Guilford Press, 1995.
This source isn’t going to be used because it doesn’t have easily accessible information about nonverbal communication. They talk about how makes it harder to have positive communication but doesn’t discuss the nonverbal actions associated with this communication. No index. No pictures, sketches or diagrams.
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Rollin, Walter J. Psychology of communication disorders in individuals and their families. New Jersey: Prentice Hall Inc, 1987.
This source isn’t going to be used because it doesn’t have easily accessible information about nonverbal communication. It contains an index but doesn’t have any keywords related to communication in the index. The chapters are organized by the type of communication disorders. There is a section of the use of positive power but it doesn’t talk about nonverbal communication. No diagrams, pictures or sketches.
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Scheflen, Albert E. How Behavior Means. New York: Gordon and Breach, 1973.
Good index and bibliography but too theoretical to be able to be useful for the presentation.
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Sebeok, Thomas A. and Jean Umiker-Sebeok. Nonverbal Communication, Interaction and Gesture. New York: Mouton Publishers, 1981.
It provides various articles about different kinds of nonverbal communication that are organized in a non-practical manner. It contains a few diagrams and sketches. One third of the book is dealing with methodical and theoretical issues that would not be useful for the presentation. There is no index and a short reference list.
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Sieburg, Evelyn. Family Communication: An Integrated Systems Approach. London: Gardner Press, Inc., 1985.
This source isn’t going to be used because it doesn’t have easily accessible information about nonverbal communication. They talk about how makes it harder to have positive communication but doesn’t discuss the nonverbal actions associated with this communication. It contains an index but doesn’t have any keywords related to communication in the index.
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Thompson, Rosemary A. Counseling Techniques: Improving Relationships with Others, Ourselves, Our Families, and Our Environment. 2nd ed. Great Britain: Brunner-Routledge, 2003.
There were three chapters that provided a very brief somewhat vague explanation of counseling techniques. These three chapters were nonverbal and metaphysical techniques, conflict mediation and conflict resolution techniques, ecletic techniques for use with family systems and family development.
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Vangelisti, Anita L., ed. Handbook of Family Communication. London: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, 2004.
Has 30 articles about family communication ranging from the subject of premarital relationships and finding a mate to the subject of relating to a family member when they are sixty. They have three articles that could relate to family communication but don’t seem to have much or any discussion of nonverbal communication in them. It has an author and subject index.
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Villard, Kenneth L. and Leland J. Whipple. Beginnings in relational communication. London: John Wiley and Sons, Inc., 1976.

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Wahlroos, Sven. Family Communication: A Guide to Emotional Health. London: Collier Macmillan Publishers, 1974.
This source isn’t going to be used because it doesn’t have easily accessible information about nonverbal communication. It contains an index. It is has thirty rules and characteristics that describe how to handle situations in a way that contributes to good mental health within the family in the long run. It is somewhat well organized because it is organized by a verbal statement and a characteristic or rule that the statement represents.
No diagrams, pictures or sketches.
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Tara’s Outline for Comm 324 Speech

(My portion of the speech begins about mid-way through after: our group introduces themselves, we give an overview of our topic, show a clip, provide statistics about teen pregnancy and drug use, Ryan introduces his skit, we perform the skit, and Stephanie talks about her “tip.” This outline picks up right after Stephanie is done with her portion of the speech.)

1. Introduce video clip and then play clip from “Saturday Night Live.” (approx. 4 minutes)

2. Talk about my “tip” (which is to create an environment that is conducive to communication), give examples of nonverbal cues that let parents know whether they are on the right track or if they should change tactics, and expand upon my research. (approx. 7 minutes) Sources: Andersen’s NVC text, Debra Kent’s article, and the White House article.

3. Introduce video clip and then play clip from “Fresh Prince of Bel Air.” (approx. 2 minutes)

4. Discuss the positive aspects of the example from the video clip and survey the audience about their experiences. Call on (pre-selected) volunteers who want to share their story of how their parents handled talking with them about sex, and what they have learned to do from our workshop. (approx. 3 minutes)

5. Pass the subject on to Evan and Mike…

(Estimated time: 16 minutes total)
(3 Min) Intro to talking about interest.
(3 Min) Some tips for common ground, coaching, volunteer at school, attending events.
(4 min) Video Clip
(3 min) Gender difference in talking to kids
(3 min) What age is appropriate to have “ The Talk”
Evans Outline:
Introduction: little speech about sex and drugs and parenting.
- Open with my video from That 70’s Show

- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R1BilIaEhqs

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Part 1.
- Helpful tips: talk about yourself by sharing stories about your adolescent experiences
o Creates comminality bring your teen closer to you
o Shows that you have been there and done that
o Puts yourself from parent to friend
o You just can’t tell them not to do it
o Explain the effects on what can happen
Part2.
- Body posture
o The way your sitting with them
o Show interest in what is being said

- Facial expressions
o Best site for understanding feeling
o Have an open minded face
o Don’t be frowning

- Gestures
o They are direct
o More embodied for of communication that words
o Open gestures
o Don’t make closed off gestures

- Eye Contact
o Is super important for your teen
o Don’t stare them down but look them in the eyes
o It shows turn taking signals
o Shows respect

- Proximecs
o Communication through interpersonal space
o Don’t over crowd there space
o Keep a nice special distance
o Can cause your teen to become defensive

- Teens nonverbally communicating with parents
o The way they dress
o How they talk
o Body language
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Nonverbal feedback


Susan Epps
Kinesics
open body communication.
Leaning slightly forward rather than backward w arms crossed is usually more inviting

Paralinguistics
Silence can be used strategically & respectfully to enable families to share their own priorities and concerns

Proxemics
Having a desk between the family and provider may serve as a barrier to communication



Sara Barnhart
Nonverbal actions can provide a very good way to reemphasize something that was said. Exs,
Someone says “He ran toward Main Street” & pts in that direction
Someone says “I don’t want to do that again!” & slams a hand on the table when saying the word don’t

If ur verbal and nonverbal signals are incongruent people will probably believe ur nonverbal signals
Roberts, Teresa Eliot "HEALTH PRACTICES AND EXPECTATIONS OF BRAZILIANS IN THE UNITED STATES." Journal of Cultural Diversity 14.4 (2007): 192-197. Academic Search Elite. EBSCO. Web. 1 Dec. 2009.

Schiaratura, Loris, and Françoise Askevis-Leherpeux "The influence of the nonverbal behaviour of examiners on children's psychometric performances." European Journal of Psychology of Education - EJPE 22.3 (2007): 327-332. Academic Search Elite. EBSCO. Web. 1 Dec. 2009.


Grahe, Jon E., and Frank J. Bernieri "The Importance of Nonverbal Cues in Judging Rapport." Journal of Nonverbal Behavior 23.4 (1999): 253-269. Academic Search Elite. EBSCO. Web. 1 Dec. 2009.

Ex of how nonverbal communication can reinforce communication patterns even if they are not healthy

Pg1 of HSU notebook #2
The husband is talking to his wife and feels like she is not listening. In order to try to make the wife listen more, he raises the volume of his voice.
As the volume of the voice goes up the wife becomes a little angry and frightened and physically turns away from him
He feels more ignored and he raises his voice louder
This creates a set of internal negative communication processes:
-His rise in voice becomes an anchor for the internal response of her feeling a little angry and frightened and doing an external response of turning away from him
-her turning away from him becomes an internal response to him feeling ignored and doing an external response of raising his voice
-this cycle then repeats

Other ways that the wife could nonverbally communicate that she is not listening
Doing nonverbal leakage behaviors Judi James
Def of leakage behaviors: small gestures that show feelings that u aren’t expressing explicity (usually because they have a negative effect on the situation) or make ur words seem false or less true Judi James
Ex of leakage behaviors: ur foot taps when ur impatient, u glance at ur watch or the clock when ur impatient, u fiddle w/ a pen when ur nervous, pt ur finger when ur angry, you yawn when ur bored, biting ur nails when ur impatient or nervous or feeling vulnerable Judi James




Ways that the wife could show that she is listening so that the husband wouldn’t feel the need to raise the voice
The wife could look in his eyes the whole time he is talking Kim Mueser and Shirley Glynn
As they are talking, produce facial expressions that convey the feeling of the speaker which are consistent with the content of the message Kim Mueser and Shirley Glynn
Wife’s body is oriented (positioned toward) to the speaker, leaning slightly forward, titled the head toward the speaker Kim Mueser and Shirley Glynn
-ur primary focus is the speaker, ur serious about the conversation Kim Mueser and Shirley Glynn
-u respect the speaker, u have interest in the speaker Kim Mueser and Shirley Glynn
Body is relaxed but is not in a slouched position. Kim Mueser and Shirley Glynn When talking the body can be erect.
Don’t do nonverbal behaviors that convey disinterest. ex sigh and roll eyes Kim Mueser and Shirley Glynn

Sitting creates many positive messages nonverbally communicates that: Lynette Long
-U have the time to talk Lynette Long
-U have respect for the individual (s) Lynette Long
-U have respect for their need to talk Lynette Long



Everyone in communication have the same size chair Kenneth Villard and Leland Whipple
Raise eyebrows when u hear something interesting or important that u want to hear more about (Mark Knapp and Judith Hall)
Have ur lips be relaxed not tightly closed or sucked in (Judi James)
Have eyes wide open (Mark Knapp and Judith Hall)
Have pt pointed toward the person you are talking to (Mark Knapp and Judith Hall)
Be sitting in a way that u have upturned palms and open arms. This can communicate openness and receptiveness. Kenneth Villard and Leland Whipple This can communicate that you are sensitive because the palm is at least twice as sensitive as the back of the hand Samy Molcho. This can communicate trust and the willingness to act amicably and cooperatively Samy Molcho. This communicates a willingness to not cover up or hide personal sensitivies’ and feelings Samy Molcho. This is a gesture of free give and take Samy Molcho. This gesture signals readineess to accept counter arguments and can remove the intention of confrontation Samy Molcho. The gesture has a positive spiritual and personal meaning Samy Molcho. For example, it is used in the iconography of saints, is used in motifs of blessing, intercessory prayer and presentation of gifts Samy Molcho.
Use open hand palm gestures w/ palm facing toward the sky preferably instead of finger pointing gestures whenever possible. Samy Molcho.
Have an open posture Ex don’t cross ur arms and legs Jon E. Grahe and Frank J. Bernieri
Have a similar speech pattern in terms of accent tempo speed of response and other things, Teresa Eliot Roberts
Have a warm voice Loris Schiaratura and Françoise Askevis-Leherpeux
Frequently smile if appropriate Loris Schiaratura and Françoise Askevis-Leherpeux

Samy Molcho Do a pyramid with ur hands pg 163 molcho instead of a fist or ur fingers together w/ur fingers pointing out from ur knuckles (porcupine fingers pg 162 molcho)
Porcupine fingers make u seem defensive and can communicate aggression Samy Molcho. (Pyramid hands) can communicate searching for a point of contact or commonality, a balancing of mutual interests and a willingness to come to an agreement Samy Molcho. Samy Molcho A clenched fist usually sends out an aggressive stimulus and signals I am ready to fight for this thing or idea and then the person they are interacting with might think they are never going to accept my idea/thoughts so I’ll just seem like I am agreeing with them and then I’ll do it behind their back. Samy Molcho When someone has a clenched fist, people usually respond to it with aggression consciously or unconsciously and this can result in tension slowly increasing in people to the pt where both people are yelling at each other SKIT

Use expansive, wide open gestures when appropriate Samy Molcho. This involves moving the upper arms away from the body while having the palm visible Samy Molcho. This will show you are not conceited and dominant and are willing to trust the other people and communicate and exchange information Samy Molcho.

If they ask questions, do slight head movements after every question asked Mary Fitzpatrick and Partricia Noller

Don’t have shifty eyes because it may make you seem untrustworthy and may make them slightly upset because it makes them think that you are going to try to use the information against them in some way Chinn and Wine and Walters what are shifty eyes

Have open feet to seem attentive Rosemary Thompson

Don’t have external distractions Lynette Long
If someone is paying attention to a distraction they are nonverbally saying (even if you are just biting your nails) I think these distractions are more important than what they are saying Lynette Long


Remove background noise Lynette Long
If people don’t have to continually repeat themselves they will feel you are listening more Lynette Long

Be in a small room (these generally make people feel safer) that has a sense of privacy environment Lynette Long
Have nothing that establishes a physical barrier between the people talking because physical barriers impede disclosure Lynette Long



• Olfactics (smell)
Room effect
The pure essential oil true lavender (augustifolia) can have a similar effect as Valium. Valium has a calming sedative effect on the amydala of the brain where fear and anger are analyzed by the body.
Synthetic copies of pure essential oils do not have the positive effects that pure essentials oils do.
Personal Effect
Can put a drop of ylan ylang on the skin and this can relax your nerves
Holistic nursing


• Artifacts (Objects) and Environment

Plants
Position in corners of room David Kennedy
Odd # of them David Kennedy
Rounded leaves instead of long pointed leaves David Kennedy
Avoid dagger-like plants (like cactuses, unless they hold sentimental meaning) because the plants can make people feel like they are symbolically being attacked by the pointed or thorny leaves David Kennedy
Have plants with flowers and/or fruits to make the room the most positive and warm David Kennedy

Lights
Lead faceted crystal spheres or quartz crystals: when sunlight hits these crystal spheres David Kennedy
Prismatic rainbows scatter beautifully throughout the house David Kennedy
Crystals can shift the energy in the room in many ways including: David Kennedy
-adding light, ?expanding the? light and ?creating? new energy David Kennedy
-redirecting energies toward a more beneficial direction David Kennedy
-harmonizing confusing or chaotic flows of energy David Kennedy

Best: 50-millimeter diameters or larger crystal spheres two inches or longer David Kennedy
2nd best: 40-millimeter spheres David Kennedy

Furniture
Position sofas and chairs so nobodys back is facing the door or has their back to the entrance Skye Alexander
-creates an atmosphere of welcoming people into the room Skye Alexander
-prevents people from being afraid of being startled by someone coming up behind them when they are seated Skye Alexander


Parents shouldn’t exaggerate the meaning of their teens body language and instead try to use it as an opportunity to learn how to best negotiate with ur teen and teach about them about acceptable language in the workplace
Ex. Teen makes a disparaging hand gesture and at the same time briefly shrugs his shoulders
Peers would think: Ok, I guess he doesn’t agree with this Samy Molcho
Mom thinks: My teen has an attitude problem and he is acting aggressively and contemptuously Samy Molcho

Recognize that the reason that teens may nonverbally act more uninhibited than u is not always because they are trying to offend u but because they usually follow a different body language code when they are outside of the home that doesn’t require them to be as inhibited and restricted as adults generally need to be to their employers or fellow employees. Samy Molcho Take this as an opportunity to tell them how important their nonverbal reactions can be in situations where they need to support themselves through a steady state of income Samy Molcho